As the internet plays an ever greater part in our social lives, with sites such as Facebook helping us to keep in touch with our friends, it's inevitable that we also use it to help us run our love lives as well.
But that's not the case, because I've found that online dating is nothing more than matchmaking my neuroses with someone else's neuroses. No one is going to tell you or show you the bad things. No one is going to post the pictures of them waking up in the morning, or the pictures of them coming home from work. Her intentions are already beginning to contradict what she wrote in her profile. Went over there, talked, smoked, and wound up having the grossest most awkward hookup in the history of hookups.
Your low self-esteem is oozing out of your pores here.
You read their profile, they seem interesting if only because they've listed some of the things you're interested in... Made the mistake of putting "420 Friendly" in my profile on one site...
I think a lot of people who make online dating profiles must buy all their rose tinted glasses from the same store.
I basically met my significant other of 2 and a half years on OKCupid. Personally, I think the question you should be asking is, “X, Y, and Z is how I interact with women, A and B is what I put on my profile, etc. I’m not getting any dates; how can I improve my dating life?
”Also: (Assuming you’re a man) reading Jae Alexis Lee’s answer discussing how men and women’s experiences in online dating is vastly different might better help you understand what’s going on on the other end of your message: Dating “successfully” while lonely: If your dating profile is anything like your question, I would run the other direction.
Your low self-esteem could manifest in unhealthy relationship dynamics—like jealousy, bad communication, or resentment when dating her doesn’t improve your self-esteem.